July 27, 2011

1. FINE: This is the word women use to end an argument when she knows she is RIGHT & YOU need to SHUT UP.

2. NOTHING: Means SOMETHING & you need to be WORRIED.

3. GO AHEAD: This is a dare, not permission , do NOT do it.

4. WHATEVER: A woman’s way of saying FORGET YOU.

5. THAT’S OK: She is thinking long & hard on HOW & WHEN you will pay for your mistake.

101 Romantic Ideas

April 1, 2011

Some are cheesy, some are cliché, some were really great, unusual ideas.

Amplify’d from www.scribd.com
IDEA # 3


On a special occasion, buy your partner eleven real red roses and oneartificial red rose.  Place the artificial rose in the center of the bouquet. Attach a card that says: “I will love you until the last rose fades.
IDEA # 34

 Buy some rose petals and place them behind the sun visor on the passenger side of your car.  Take a post it note and write, “I Love You” on it and stick it tothe back of the sun visor. As you are driving to a romantic destination, look at your partner and tell her she has a mark on her cheek.  She will pull down the sun visor to use themirror and be showered in rose petals and see your note
IDEA # 56
IDEA # 56

 Next time you order a pizza, ask to have it cut into a heart shape before it isdelivered to your home
IDEA # 80

 Give your partner a magic gift box.  Every month, place a new small gift in thebox for her to discover.

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To My Beautiful Sisters…

March 8, 2011

A young wife sat on a sofa on a hot humid day, drinking iced tea and visiting with her mother. As they talked about life, about marriage, about the responsibilities of life and the obligations of adulthood, the mother clinked the ice cubes in her glass thoughtfully and turned a clear, sober glance upon her daughter.

“Don’t forget your sisters,” she advised, swirling the tea leaves to the bottom of her glass. “They’ll be more important as you get older. No matter how much you love your husband, no matter how much you love the children you may have, you are still going to need sisters.”

“Remember to go places with them now and then; do things with them.”

“Remember that ‘sisters’ means ALL the women… your girlfriends, your daughters, and all your other women relatives too. You’ll need other women. Women always do.”

“What a funny piece of advice!” the young woman thought. “Haven’t I just gotten married? Haven’t I just joined the couple-world? I’m now a married woman, for goodness sake! A grownup!  Surely my husband and the family we may start will be all I need to make my life worthwhile!”

But she listened to her mother. She kept contact with her sisters and made more women friends each year. As the years tumbled by, one after another, she gradually came to understand that her mother really knew what she was talking about. As time and nature work their changes and their mysteries upon a woman, sisters are the mainstays of her life.

She said this is what she learned:

Time passes, life happens, distance separates, children grow up, jobs come and go, love waxes and wanes, men don’t do what they’re supposed to do, hearts break, parents die, colleagues forget favors, and careers end…


Sisters are there, no matter how much time and how many miles are between you. A girl friend is never farther away than needing her can reach.

When you have to walk that lonesome valley and you have to walk it by yourself, the women in your life will be on the valley’s rim, cheering you on, praying for you, pulling for you, intervening on your behalf, and waiting with open arms at the valley’s end.

Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk beside you…. Or come in and carry you out. Girlfriends, daughters, granddaughters, daughters-in-law, sisters, sisters-in-law, Mothers, Grandmothers, aunties, nieces, cousins, and extended family: all bless our life!

The world wouldn’t be the same without women, and neither would I. When we began this adventure called womanhood, we had no idea of the incredible joys or sorrows that lay ahead. Nor did we know how much we would need each other.

Every day, we need each other still. Pass this on to all the women who help make your life meaningful.

If a Man Wants You… (Things to Remember)

January 27, 2011

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that’s not meant to be.

Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can’t “be friends.” A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.

Don’t settle.

If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.

If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within.

Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are… even if he has more education or in a better job.  Do not make him into a quasi-god.    He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else’s man.

Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending…compromise is a two-way street.

You need time to heal between relationships…there is nothing cute about baggage… deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you…a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals…look for someone complimentary… not supplementary.

Dating is fun…even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr.. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes…when a man always knows where you are, and you’re always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.

Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need.

Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Share this with other ladies….. You’ll make someone SMILE, another RETHINK her choices, and another woman PREPARE.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.

Live With Intention

January 6, 2011

Live with Intention.

Walk to the Edge.

Listen Hard.

Practice Wellness.

Play with Abandon.


Choose No Regret.

Continue to Learn.

Appreciate Your Friends.

Do What You Love.

Live… As if this is All There Is……

Birthday Wishes

October 18, 2008

I miss him.

As my birthday approaches, he is the only gift my soul desires.

I miss the days when we played in the sun. I miss our time at the lake, and fishing with him, and that look on his face when I hooked the biggest bass of my life – so huge I freaked and tried to make him take the pole, but he just howled with laughter and made me do it on my own. I miss the countless hours we spent driving the winding back roads, taking in the scenic beauty, away from the world, talking and laughing. I miss the waterfalls, the hikes, and the woods. I still smile at the way he looked when I ran that crazy, rabid looking bat out of the little store, and I still cringe when I think about him hanging upside down from that tree over the side of the cliff.

I miss the evenings at his place when he would read to me from his Grandfather’s journal. I miss dinner with his family, and those fabulous meals his mom would make while his dad worked on homemade candy for later. I miss throwing darts with him, and listening to his stories. I loved watching him – the intense, animated way he would tell them- making me feel like I was there when it happened… a part of the story.

I miss the nights we spent watching t.v. in bed, with Mona the cat jealously trying to edge me off the bed. I still think about the night we took a blanket to the field to watch the meteor shower. I made a dozen wishes on a dozen shooting stars that night, and I remember every one, which is really quite amazing considering how many beers we had that night. I miss the feeling of safety, security, warmth, and love I fell asleep with every night, laying there next to him. I miss waking up in the middle of the night, and loving it because I got to lay there and stare at him, memorizing everything about him. I miss the scent of him. I even miss his snoring.

I miss the mornings the most. I miss waking up next to him. I miss our morning banter over coffee as we reminisced about the day before and made plans for the day ahead. I miss waking up, and looking at him, and knowing that for that day, we were still together, and I tried not to think ahead to the day I would fly back home, or the days thereafter.

It’s been over a year since I’ve seen him in person, but I see him everyday in my mind, and every night in my dreams. I wish he didn’t haunt me so. I feel his presence when I’m alone in the woods, and hear his laughter in the wind.

No matter how much two people may want the same thing, sometimes love just isn’t enough, and dreams simply don’t come true. They remain what they are… just dreams.

I miss him…my lover…my strength…my best friend… and my birthday wish is for him.

I wish him love. I wish him inner peace. I wish him a lifetime of blessings and happiness.

*and with these wishes, she closes her eyes, and blows out her candles*


September 22, 2008

The broken clock is a comfort, it helps me sleep tonight
Maybe it can stop tomorrow from stealing all my time
I am here still waiting though i still have my doubts
I am damaged at best, like you’ve already figured out

I’m falling apart, I’m barely breathing
With a broken heart that’s still beating
In the pain there is healing
In your name I find meaning
So I’m holdin’ on, I’m holdin’ on, I’m holdin’ on
I’m barely holdin’ on to you

The broken locks were a warning you got inside my head
I tried my best to be guarded, I’m an open book instead
I still see your reflection inside of my eyes
That are looking for a purpose, they’re still looking for life

I’m falling apart, I’m barely breathing
with a broken heart that’s still beating
In the pain is there healing
In your name I find meaning
So I’m holdin’ on
I’m barely holdin’ on to you

I’m hangin’ on another day
Just to see what you will throw my way
And I’m hanging on to the words you say
You said that I will, I’ll be ok

The broken lights on the freeway left me here alone
I may have lost my way now, haven’t forgotten my way home

I’m falling apart, I’m barely breathing
with a broken heart that’s still beating
In the pain there is healing
In your name I find meaning
So I’m holdin’ on
I’m barely holdin’ on to you

I miss my friend. I miss our talks,  the laughter, and I even miss our fights.  I miss laying beside you on the blanket in the middle of a field while we made a dozen wishes on a dozen shooting stars.  I wish you could send me my heart back from Wisconsin, but I know it will be a slow journey, because it doesn’t want to leave on it’s own.   You will always be my Great North Woodsman. I will always love you, and wish you all the happiness life can bring you.

I have NO understanding

June 10, 2008

I am a good, honest, loyal, faithful person, to my freinds, and in my relationships. I have spent my life wanting to see smiles, and hear laughter from all those around me, and trying to make sure they had plenty of both.  I deserve better than this.

I met Steve online, two years ago. Yes, we’ve been together in real life too. He lives in Wisconsin and I live in Arkansas, but we were together, and were planning our lives together. I was to move there next May after I graduated college, because at 40, I wouldn’t put it off, and couldn’t afford out of state tuition, and Wisconsin was where we all (my son included) wanted to be.

I got up yesterday to offlines from him declaring his love and how much he missed me, only to see him online at yahoo with a status message declaring his love for “Tammy”, and how “good” she loved him in return.

Today he kept writing to me, telling me “the only reason in my stupid head we aren’t married is your not next to me………….”

and so…what? that gave him a reason to cheat? or fall in love, or whatever…and to announce it publicly without so much as a word to me?

He kept telling me he was wrong, and he was sorry, yet at the same time it was MY FAULT because i wasn’t there with him, yet it was always I who went THERE. He never once came here. I always put in all the effort.

I wasn’t looking for love when I met him. It just happened. Formed from an online friendship into something almost tangible. He broke down barriers of trust that I didn’t think could EVER be broken… and I trusted him completely. Everything I did, even from a 1,000 miles away, had him, and our future in mind. Even my 16 yr old son is crazy about him, and was so looking forward to us being a family. I don’t even know what to tell him now.

I deserve better than this. I deserve to be loved, completely, honestly, and faithfully. I deserve to be adored, because I adore those who love me…  freinds, family, and otherwise.

I will NOT let this break me. I am stronger than this. I am more than THIS.

Someday, someone is gonna love me the way I deserve, and I am going to love them even stronger, harder, better than they ever DREAMED they could be loved.

Just you hide and WATCH!

43 Things

January 27, 2008

I’m sure many of you have started a list at 43things.com. I was looking over my list this morning and got to thinking… “what are 43 things I could do everyday that would help to make me happy?”  This is what I came up with…


1. Take a 10-30 minute walk every day. And while you walk,

smile. It is the ultimate anti-depressant.


2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day. Buy a lock

if you have to.


3. Buy a DVR/TIVO, tape your late night shows and get more sleep.


4. When you wake up in the morning complete the following

statement, “My purpose is to ______today.”


5. Live with the 3 E’s: Energy, Enthusiasm, Empathy.


6. Watch more movies, play more games and read more books

than you did in 2007.


7. Find out who you are, and do it on purpose.


8. Spend more time with people over the age of 70 and under

the age of 6.


9. Dream more while you are awake.


10. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.


11. Drink green tea and plenty of water. Eat blueberries, wild Alaskan salmon, broccoli, almonds & walnuts.


12. Try to make at least three people smile each day.


13. Clear your clutter from your house, your car, your desk, and let new and flowing energy into your life.


14. Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip, energy vampires, issues of the past, negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.


15. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class, but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.


16. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a college kid with a maxed out charge card.


17. Smile and laugh more. It will keep the energy vampires away.


18. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.


19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.


20. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.


21. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.


22. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.


23. Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about.


24. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, and wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special!


25. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.


26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: “In five years will this matter?”


27. Forgive everyone for everything.


28. What other people think of you is none of your business.


29. Time heals almost everything. Give time…. time.


30. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.


31. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick.

Your friends will. Stay in touch.


32. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.


33. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.


34. The best is yet to come.


35. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.


36. Do the right thing!


37. Call your family often.


38. Each night before you go to bed complete the following

statements: “I am thankful for __________. Today I

accomplished _________.”


39. Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.


40. Enjoy the ride. Remember that this is not Disney World and you certainly don’t want a fast pass. You only have one ride through life so make the most of


41.Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great. it and enjoy the ride.


 42. Don’t be afraid to get into hot water. It keeps you clean.


….and think about this…..


43. How old would you be if you didn’t have a mirror… If you didn’t know when you were born? Your ancestors didn’t and they knew no boundaries!


Recipe for Making Love

January 11, 2008



4 Laughing eyes
4 Well-shaped legs
4 Loving arms
2 Firm milk containers
2 Nuts
1 Fur-lined mixing bowl
1 Firm banana


1. Look into laughing eyes.

2. Spread well-shaped legs with loving arms.

3. Squeeze and massage milk containers very gently.

4. Gently add firm banana to mixing bowl, working in and out until well
creamed. For best results, continue to knead milk containers.

5. As heat rises, plunge banana deep into mixing bowl and cover with nuts,
leave to soak (preferably NOT overnight).

6. The cake is done when banana is soft. If banana does not soften, repeat
steps 3-5 or change mixing bowls.


1. If you are in an unfamiliar kitchen, wash utensils carefully before and
after use.

2. Do not lick mixing bowl after use.

3. If cake rises, leave town.

4. For best results pass recipe on to friends